Healing by Proxy (and why it doesn’t work…)
✨ HEALING BY PROXY (and why it doesn't work)
"It's driving me crazy. It's like she's determined to stay miserable." Doug, one of my clients, is talking about his younger sister. After a long & highly successful career in real estate development, Doug has been investing a lot of himself in growing, healing and evolving as a leader, spouse and father. "My brother and I do everything we can to support her, but she doesn't appreciate it. She wants attention and love, but whenever we give it to her she sabotages it, and reliably ruins every family vacation. It's like she's stuck in this place from when we were kids, when she decided she was hard done by. And she's carried that story around ever since. Can plant medicine help her be happy?"
The people I work with are deeply committed to their own healing path, and in our time together it's very common for them to express frustration that their family member or partner isn't interested in growing. But as much as we would love to, we cannot fix, force or convince our loved ones to heal.
When we commit to our healing, we evolve beyond many of the narratives and stories we've created in our lives. Nature can and does gift us with the freedom & ability to expand beyond what we thought possible, but it is a co-creative process that each individual spirit must fully commit to; we can't do it for someone else, nor can we expect nature to do it for us.
I've witnessed the healing of many thousands thousands of people in my career, and there are prominent threads & themes I've observed --- people who are ready to grow, heal and elevate their experience of life ⬇️
- Decide to take radical personal responsibility for their lives 💫
- Loosen & release the stories they've created about their reality ✨
- Find the courage to choose loving, expansive possibility in the unknown over fearful, limiting familiarity 🫶🏽
- Cultivate & express gratitude daily 🙏🏽
- Become very aware of their energy & thoughts, and thoughtful about who, what and where they are placing their time and attention
- Surround themselves with positive people who deeply see, love, support, appreciate and light them up 💗
The best way we can support the healing of the world is healing ourselves, elevating our own frequency, and expressing our innate gifts in creativity & service to the world. That courage is contagious, and by transforming your own experience of life you hold the invitation out to others in your life just by being your true, quirky, authentic self. When you are fully grounded in who you are, comfortable in your own skin and living an aligned life, you will inspire those who are ready to do the same.
